The PHASES of Relationships

The Chemical Realities of the
Phases of Loving Relationships
It’s an eye-opener for romance seekers - as well as
for as those seeking stable long-term relationships

Here’s What the Neurochemists Now Know
And What Causes So Much Relationship Grief.
We Don’t Understand
What’s Happening in Our Own Bodies

Reader’s Feedback
One reader said: ‘Hard to believe the existence of this knowledge isn’t more widely available. The romance chemical cycles matched my courting, marriage and divorce cycles perfectly. Had I known I would have done things differently’

Another: ‘I cheat frequently. Maybe my partner does as well.
Now I understand why’

And yet another: ‘Why do we have to cheat - be false/lie to our partners/best friends. Why can’t we and they just be open, honest and candid about our emotional and sensual needs – instead of hiding them. Then we could stop
trashing our loving long term relationships and families and often kid’s lives’

Our cultural mandates – that which we are supposed to do – regarding our intended long-term loving relationships – do not fit well with our biology/physiology (see below ‘Chemical Phases of Relationships’).

It’s like hundreds of millions of adults all over the world trying to mash square people pegs into round relationship holes – and then asking why they didn’t fit together very well – or stay together very long.

In about 15% of the world’s separate and distinct CULTURES – the ‘Romantic Ideal’ (circa 1200AD) tells us we are supposed to enter into a lifelong Mutually Exclusive Coupling Love Organization (example: marriage). Note: quantities of cultures/societies are different from population totals.

The tenets of the ‘Romantic Ideal’ state there is Only One person on earth with whom we are destined to have a loving relationship. When we identify them and they us – when we find our ‘Soul-Mate’ - we are supposed to own them - and visa versa (‘Person Ownership’) – to own their heart and mind and spirit - but especially possess and control their private body parts - for the balance of our/their lives. Their private body parts are to be our exclusive possessions, and our private body parts, their exclusive possessions. No one else is to see their parts – but especially not to touch them again – forever - ‘till death do you part’.
(Read: To Touch or Not To Touch)

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